The Intimacy Curator

Turn -Ons and Turn-Offs are the two terms we often use to describe how our bodies react to a sensual situation. When you initially date someone, there are several things that attract you to them sexually and we describe them as turn-ons. How someone does little gestures of care is a major turn-on for me or curly hair is another example. The same goes for things that can lead you to a “turn-off”. On a more intimate level, there can be things that hold you back from a sensual situation or excites you to engage in it and take it to the next level. These responses that our bodies make during an intimate situation can be described under the Dual Control Model of Sexual Response . This model can be used to understand how to go about building an exciting relationship with your partner. The Dual Control Model of Sexual Response is based on the idea that sexual response in individuals is an interaction between excitatory and inhibitory processes. A balance between the two is very important to h...

  The weather was quite ideal that day with the summer heat and pleasant wind. I was carrying my expectations like a rebellion, apparently ready to take over all vulvas. Imagine this- you lie to your parents about your whereabouts and travel an hour from home just to hook up with a girl. This was my first gay sexual dating experience and was extremely important to me. The thought of exploring my identity was so exciting that it overpowered  my nervousness. With this feeling, I wanted to do anything and everything. My thoughts saw no bounds. We met and it was awkward. Neither of us knew how to make the first move, so we played cards in her room. Then the songs started playing, one thing led to another and we were making out! Now unfortunately,everything I knew was from porn videos. Typical porn essentially portrays everything to be easy and natural. As anticipated from a young mouldable mind, my brain believed that it would be just the same. I would enjoy every touch, every ki...