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Let the girl make the first move

As a single 40 year old who has been dating for the last five years, I did not take Later Life Virginity therapy sessions and I have always been made fun of for waiting for the girl to make the first move. “So you rather watch this stupid movie instead of making out with me?”“ You CAN hold my hand if you want, you know.” At a recent party, when I explained to friends that it just makes consent a lot more clear than any signal would, they thought it’s a good practice given the times we live in. It’s always been this way for me. Maybe because I didn’t kiss anyone till I was 29 or sleep with anyone till I was 35. (No, I’m not ashamed of it and let’s just stop shaming virgins.) Yes, I am aware that many girls may have wanted me to make the move because it’s supposed to be a guy’s job but I just can’t get myself to do it. I didn’t need an intimacy coach to tell me that. The few instances I have tried to peck a girl on her cheeks or hold her hand, I would stop halfway. I just don’t have tho